This was started about 15 or so months ago. Finishing it and posting just to move on.
OK, I do not really feel that my way is always the best way. I know and even appreciate that for others there are other ways to do things that often work. I also know that "My Way" is not perfect, since it fails at times too. But on the other hand, many times your ways, young whippersnappers, are indescribably inefficient and likely to fail since you lack the wisdom born of a longer life needed to formulate a sufficient response to the crap life throws at you. So how about using some should-be-common sense for a few glaringly obvious situations instead of wandering around in the darkness that comes from not thinking?
Getting along. You know, treating people the way you want to be treated. Not pissing off those who love you or like you or work with you or breath the same air. I know you have issues, problems, challenges. But at this stage of life, unless you really mess up, most are opportunities to learn rather than life-limiting results. We all have problems, and later on when you get older you can have some fun dealing with some real ones. Try never knowing if the next step is going to send spikes of pain racing through your body as ankles, knees or hips decide they are not wanting to be used, for example. I know you have to deal with things and want to do so in your way, and that is fine except that when you get angry and you create stress that talking it out would help settle. Do you really like making bad situations worse? Look, just adapt for crying out loud. Understand that sometimes things will be tough. And learn to talk to us!
Develop a realistic world view. Are you sure that the things you think you know about the world are at all realistic? I don't know that you are wandering around fooling yourselves, but just in case: Please learn to accept that people will often oversell their ideas, and can be counted on to be wrong quite often. What I am thinking about the new thinking: Much of what they teach is garbage, and my prediction is that in a few years the "newthink" will be as discredited as over processed white bread. With trans fats. So no, the nice-nice view of the world that some actually believe exists is a false dream. The problem is that newthinkers assume that the fundamental human nature has changed, that somehow people are enlightened and that hundreds of thousands of years of evolution has miraculously changed and we are now nice, fair, sharing beings instead of the stronger but less nice ones that many are and always will be. They fail to realize that as soon as things get tough that we revert to what has kept our species alive for lo these many eons, and the weak, the fools and the trusting are the first to go. Not everyone wins, life does not give you a trophy for showing up, and you do need to act well and treat others properly to get ahead of the grind that is life. Newthink has done nothing except create a lot of whiny self absorbed stupid people. Of course even when things are good, when a wolf comes into that herd, the sheep are unprepared to deal and chaos and hurt results.
Life is often difficult, and things often do not turn out like you would prefer they do. People can be mean, or jealous, or even just evil. Many are just stupid. But do not fixate on all that; instead learn from it and go on.
And for heaven's sake stop taking it out on those older and wiser who love you. It is not our fault that you screwed up and are now suffering the consequences. No major decisions should be made while riding a high horse. Worse yet, sometimes you make the same mistake again, without having learned the first time. When something goes wrong, please refer to the famous Einstein truth defining insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Try really talking to us instead of shutting our ideas out; we like to live in an imaginary world where our endless wisdom is used to help you avoid all the little disasters that your lack of wisdom gets you into, instead of merely sitting back and shaking our heads when you flub up. One way to do better is to be smart enough to not burn bridges just because things are not perfect or because you think you know better. Stop ignoring our suggestions; after all doing things your way is what got you in the mess you are in, so you think continuing to follow your own lead in the darkness that you now find yourself in is really the best way to find the light?
Wisdom vs. smarts. Right now you think you have all the answers. Sorry young 'uns, you don't. You may be the smartest thing since sliced bread, but until you have enough life experience to make those smarts work for you, you will not "win".
Another issue that you really ought to consider: Choose your battles wisely. It does not matter how smart you are. It does not matter how right you are. It does not matter how wrong they are. These dust ups about getting someone fired or put in their place have a very low probability of success because you are the transient and they are the long term. Always realize: In a short time you are going to move on, while they will be around for a long time, making life difficult for those who stood by you. Choosing when to fight is an important skill. Of course the system is not perfect. But it is what it is, and no matter how smart you are it is not going to change just to be "fair" to you. But you cannot see that, or choose to believe that somehow you know better. That arrogance saddens me, because if it is not corrected you will never be successful.
Jobs. The economy is bad. Think before you leave a job: Do you have another lined up? How likely are you to ever find that perfect job that you fantasize about? Do you think that maybe many others want that job, and have better resumes to offer to get it? Perhaps now you should be aiming to get a beginning job, and stick with it even if you do not like it for a few years in order to build a good job history. Remember, most bosses do not care about grades, or how smart you are, nearly as much as they care about dependability and how well you will work for them. Even if they are not wonderful people and do not make things perfect for you. They will not want you to redefine the job instead of doing the job. Please do not respond with a "I don't want money I want a job I like" response. News flash: At some point you will want money. You will need money. And if you do not have a decent job, even if it is not perfect, you will be poor and wretched.
OK, that is all. Bye for now.
